Giving Ourselves Enough Credit

We live in a fast-paced society. We want things quickly. We want them now. We want to arrive at our destinations quickly. We want to lose weight quickly. I personally want those 15 pounds off RIGHT NOW!

Change can’t happen soon enough. We want to be more loving – now! We want to be more compassionate – now! We want to be more patient – now!

And what happens when it doesn’t happen – now? We are unkind to ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We say to ourselves, “This is just the way that I am. I can’t change.” And so we give up. We don’t give ourselves the space to just be. To allow God to do His work in us.

I read a poem the other day while I was walking down a hallway filled with high school kids. And after I read it, I could only say, “Wow” (one student actually thought I was talking about him – I had to quickly clarify). I think it expresses this idea that we must be patient with ourselves as we go through processes of change.


What makes a fire burn
is space between the logs,
a breathing space.
Too much of a good thing,
too many logs
packed in too tight
can douse the flames
almost as surely
as a pail of water would.

So building fires
requires attention
to the spaces in between,
as much as to the wood.

When we are able to build
open spaces
in the same way
we have learned
to pile on the logs,
then we can come to see how
it is fuel, and absence of the fuel
together, that make fire possible.

We only need to lay a log
lightly from time to time.
A fire
simply because the space is there,
with openings
in which the flame
that knows just how it wants to burn
can find its way.

— Judy Brown

Give yourself the space…



  1. IAAdmin says:

    Patience in all things is a good lesson, personal change being just one avenue. Sometimes, I have trouble with patience, and the next time, I feel my patience waining, I’ll think about the space between the logs.


  2. Cathy Mendez says:

    You’ve had a good posted article which gives reason to every one who read this article to finish their reading. Anyway, as the other says that patience is always the best thing to do because it takes less mistakes on your part. Like on losing weight patience and of course self discipline will be the key to achieve your desire weight or for perfect body. By the way, you can visit Dr. Joseph Mercola website for more details and information about weight loss and other health related topics. Its absolutely will give benefits for your part…

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