Being Comfortable In An “Unsettled” Place

For those of you who’ve been reading my blog the past few days, you know that I’ve been struggling in a place that I don’t feel quite comfortable, a place I’m trying to make sense of. The wonderful readers of my blog gave me some wonderful encouragement and advice, and I’d like to share some of their wisdom, particularly for those who may be feeling as I am, not quite knowing which direction to turn, not quite knowing if the direction taken is the right one, not quite knowing if the road taken is the road one should travel.

Lisa Gates, author of the blog Design Your Writing Life compassionately commented on my post “Unsettledness,” and suggests I answer several questions. I’d like to begin by answering her first two questions as I seek to understand the direction in which I should go:

  • What could you learn by staying in the unsettled place for a while?
  • What is this unsettling trying to tell you?

I believe it will take a little courage to attempt to stay in this unsettled place as things unfold and clear up for me. I don’t say that arrogantly, as if, “KWiz, you’re so courageous!” It’s my nature to want things to have an explanation. But I’ve seen my husband live not having to explain everything or have everything make sense. In fact, that is what a life of faith is about – letting God have His way. And while, ultimately, He has had His way – which has resulted in so much tremendous goodness in my life – it’s not been easy to let go and let God orchestrate some things in my life. In fact, I’ll crack the door, peek out, and it is through those openings, I believe, God chooses to slip in and work. Why do I believe that? Jesus advised the people of a church that needed stern teaching and discipline in the book of Revelation:

“Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him…” (Revelation 3:20).

It’s been difficult for me to allow God to be God in my life. Yet, He’s been good, gracious, and generous. I need to trust that God will speak to me in my unsettled space, comfort me in that space, and lead me through and out when it is time.

So in response to Lisa’s question, “What is this unsettling trying to tell you?” I believe it’s trying to tell me to trust that no matter where I am, I am not alone (thank you, Camille). I am not alone in my…

DOUBT.

For some Christians, “doubt” carries connotations of the “4-letter word.” Like questioning God is a sin. I’m perfectly okay with it, though. God’s not struck me down yet. Because I believe it is in the doubt where one asks questions. And it is in the questioning that one gains insight and understanding. To me, to say you can’t or shouldn’t ask questions of God implies a bit of arrogance, and really, I can’t pretend I know a dash about God to say I know enough not to question. But in the less than a dash that I do know, He’s merciful, compassionate, loving. And He knows the doubt I have in my mind and heart. He’s not requiring perfect faith of me – or anyone else for that matter. And for that anyone else who wonders about questioning God, it’s okay. He expects the questions. He wants the questions. Will I always receive the answer I want? HA! Will I receive the answers I need? Most definitely – yes. And going back to the fact that I am not alone, very often, the answers come from the community of which I belong. And at the moment, Lisa, Camille, Anna, The New Parent, Paula, Susan, and last but not least, Manchild, are some of you who are “with me” in my unsettledness. Thank you.

As I’ve had the opportunity to think about these questions, I believe the last question Lisa asks me is very key:

  • What if being unsettled is where the divine will meet up with you and show you the way?

I believe God waits for this. And I believe this to be true.

I believe God spoke to me through all of you. Thank you for being gracious vessels.

I hope those of you who are experiencing a similar state will find comfort in reflecting on Lisa’s questions.

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7 comments

  1. Lisa Gates says:

    Here I go again with this metaphor, but you’re chopping wood and carrying water. You’re doing the work. You’re in action. You amaze me. And yes it’s hard.

    Your authenticity stuns me.

  2. KWiz says:

    Thank you so very much, Lisa. I don’t quite know what to say. I’m just trying to be real, letting people see and understand that being a Christian doesn’t mean I have all the answers. That it’s not always about quoting scripture to demonstrate how much you know. This is real life, and this is the only way I know how to communicate what I’m going through. I guess that’s why I wasn’t called to be a preacher (I tried that…it was not a good experience for me)!!! I appreciate your tremendous encouragement, Lisa.

  3. Paula Neal Mooney says:

    Lord I hope so. I hope God meets up with us and shows us the way…on the daily, as the kids say.

    I was just begging Him yesterday to slow me down or speed me up or whatever His will is, just let me flow in it!

  4. ndpthepoetress says:

    Staying in the state of ‘unsettledness’ is not only commendable, but also demonstrates Faith. You speak of unsettledness in many areas of your life, yet each seem like strands of thread, waiting to be woven together in a quilted Master piece. There is your child whom you can wrap in this quilt, spun from your Teaching the ABC’s AND do educate for God. So she may venture into Society as a warm hearted individual. Yet how does one; a Teacher, a Mother, a Writer… present God to the rest of the World? Haven’t you already begun with your first pupil – your Daughter and second with this post?

  5. Blithe Muse says:

    Everyone has moments of doubts and insecurities in their daily life.You try your best to keep the faith, run the good race, but most times, you stumble when waylaid by trials and situations beyond your control. But I have noticed, everytime i waver, something happens to restore my faith, such as seeing a rainbow, to reading a poetry in motion on a subway, to some one’s kind smile. Then I am reminded there is more to life, than eye can see or our mind can comprehend.

    As the amazing warrior poet- King David put it so eloquently in his psalms-37, verse:24″ though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with His Hand”

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