Comments on: Moving On…Leaving It Behind…

By: Jack

Jack — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 16:16:28 +0000

This is to test if the comments are getting in

By: Nicole

Nicole — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 10:57:40 +0000

I know what you mean. Being used is one of the worst feelings anybody could ever go to, and I felt just horrid when I found out about my ex cheating on me. I don’t know, though; I’ve been reading this ebook, and it’s helped me realize just what I need to get my life back on track. Love, not just sexual love, but real love requires a lot of work, but in the end, I think it’s the kind of hard work that really, really pays off.

By: Rindy

Rindy — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 02:25:40 +0000

I really believe we have to know how we are affected before we can ever move beyond it. It may be a one shot deal (if it’s straightforward), but more often it’s an ongoing process, uncovering layers of effects…but it is possible…great that you are looking at all. You can do it…

By: KWiz

KWiz — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 04:51:31 +0000

Hi Danielle,
Thank you so much for sharing a little of your experiences. My problem has been granting what’s happened to me and the effects of that stuff “dominion.” The way I can explain it best is sometimes being on “autopilot.” And that’s been difficult to disengage. But I’m seeing very small improvements in how I handle things. Another problem, though, is the change is not consistent. It’s sort of back and forth. I guess that’s better than nothing.

By: KWiz

KWiz — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 04:48:12 +0000

Hi Keith,
When the change doesn’t come as fast as you want, yeah, it’s frustrating. But I can sometimes see myself making little progresses here and there. And when I can catch those little changes, however small they are, they give me reason to expect that more change is around the corner.

And that internalized rage thing, I think lots of people who are “pro’s” at that probably don’t realize it until later anyway. It must be a rite of passage or something…

By: The New Parent

The New Parent — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 04:36:39 +0000

Hi Kwiz–there’s a saying I kinda remember: we spend our days worrying about the future, lamenting our pasts, ever forgetting our present. Sometimes I’ve found that the pain I remember evaporates as I allow the energy of joy into my heart. It’s not an easy time of it, but who ever said growing up was supposed to be easy (smile).

A penetrating post. Thank you for the sharing.

By: Danielle

Danielle — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 21:03:57 +0000

I too was burdening myself unnecessarily with the past, hanging on to the bad things that occurred in my childhood that were completely out of my grasp of control, almost owning them as if those memories were the sum of who I am. I haven’t related the experiences of my childhood on my blog because they are still too powerful and I am attempting to diminish that power before I write about it. I have just let it go. I was abused because others were abused and didn’t know how to break the cycle. I was neglected because others pain was too great. But I have survived the past as have you so there is no need to bring it along. Life is a mountain cliff and I simply not strong enough to climb toward betterment carrying the dead weight of past transgressions, so I have opted to leave them at the basecamp, acknowledging them but no longer granting them dominion over me. You and your husband are striving toward the same goals in life which in and of itself is honorable. You are creating an environment of love for which your daughter to flourish. You have proven yourself strong enough to get this far despite the past. I am sure you have the strength to let it go. Probably more strength than I have, sweets.

As always, my dear friend, I am sending you wishes of health, balance and joy.

Be well and enjoy the day.

By: Keith

Keith — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 17:58:49 +0000

Hey KWiz!

You can’t imagine how on time that post was for me. Thanks very much. No need for details, at least not for now, but I can definitely understand where you’re coming from on this one. Sometimes it really is so hard to allow yourself to believe that life really can get better – or to even acknowledge that your life really is moving forward, even if it’s not at the rate you would prefer. Believe me I’m a pro at internalized rage. I think I majored in that in college and didn’t even know it.

Anyway, thanks again for this post!

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